Getting engaged is something that most of us tend to do regularly throughout our lives. That means the people that are getting engaged to one another, often know very little about what to expect. The good news is you can find out all about the most critical aspect of getting engaged in our guide below. Read on to find out more.
You can talk about it beforehand
We often think of engagement as a surprise event initiated by the man for the woman. However, it’s important to remember that we are in the 21st century here, and the old traditions don’t have to hold.
With that in mind, most couples thoroughly discuss both getting married and getting engaged before there is even a hint of a proposal. A good idea because getting engaged in this way makes sure you both know what to expect from the other in the short and long term. Additionally, it ensures that both partners are equal in the decision to make that life long commitment.
You can choose the ring together
Again, in the perfect vision of a traditional engagement, we see the man produce a sparkling ring for the woman. Of course, the engagement ring remains an important symbol of commitment for both parties, in terms of financial investment and declaration of love.
However, do remember that it is acceptable to propose without a ring, or choose a cheap place holder so you can both go and choose a ring together.
Many couples do indeed go for this option because it will guarantee that the person receiving the ring will be pleased with the choice. After all, there are so many different diamond rings and settings from which to pick. You’ll need the input of the person that will be wearing it.
Additionally, once again, by choosing the ring together, the process of engagement is less traditional and more equal between the parties involved.
You can have a party, if you want
Engagement parties are a thing! They usually involved getting together with family and friends and celebrating the couple and their forthcoming marriage. The thing is, you don’t actually have to have one if you don’t want one. A wedding is expensive after all, and spending money on a considerable party before the big day can seem a little wasteful to a lot of couples.
Then you get the situations where couples are cajoled into having an engagement party, by their relatives who throw and pay for it for them. Just remember that if you rather do something more low-key, you are totally within your rights to say so.
People will want you to set a date ASAP (But you don’t have to)
Finally, when it comes to engagements and familial pressure, watch out for people that want to know the date of your wedding ASAP. Yes, they will ask, lots, but it is OK to say that you don’t know that you want a long engagement, if you rather. After all, your engagement is about you and your spouse to be, and no one else!